Hello Everyone!
What an eye opening discussion we had today about Dating. Being
over 40 myself I found it to be very interesting, inspiring and to be honest.. quite
comical. We had three wonderful guests talk about different
aspects of dating including the Dating Goddess who has penned 13 books on
dating over 40.
Here are some of her answers to questions about dating.
OT: What makes dating different now
than when we were in our 20s?
DG: Pros
·
Often
more freedom if kids are out of the house, so more time to date
·
More
income to spend because you’re further along in your career
Cons
·
My be
balancing raising teenagers and caring for elderly parents, so not much time to
date
·
Not
usually concerned about having more kids, although adoption is an option for
those interested
·
May
have put on extra pounds, have sags and bags. Not feel as attractive as when
younger
·
May
have been financially wiped out by tuition and divorce payments so no funds to
date.
OT: Let’s
say I think I want a special man in my life again. What are some things I need
to know?
DG: Need to examine your espectations (Is Bradd Pitt ruining your love life?)
DG: Need to examine your espectations (Is Bradd Pitt ruining your love life?)
·
Need
to be ready to open your heart (Have you built a fortress around your heart?)
·
Need
to have courage (Courage and dating
-rejection stings)
·
Be
willing to examine your own actions and try to understand your date’
OT: What are some of the hardest things
for women re-entering the dating pool after a long absence?
DG:
·
(Don’t
think you are damaged goods)
·
Don’t
assume the man you’re with is like others, both bad and good
·
Are you
set in your ways?)
OT: How does a woman know what
she’s looking for in her next mate?
DG:
· (What’s your “perfect boyfriend’s” job
description?)
· Practice dates
· Be present to how you feel, both with
him and between dates
OT: What has surprised
you about men’s dating behavior?
DG:
· (Chivalry isn’t dead —but it seems to
be hibernating)
· (Midlife men have forgotten how to
date)
· With few exceptions, a man has to
initiate the first contact
· Most of the men I’ve met have been
sweet, caring and dear.
OT: We’re now prepped and ready to get into the dating
pool. What do we need to do?
DG:
· (Are you making bad decisions out of
loneliness?)
· (Being “in wonder” about your date’s
behavior)
OT: Let’s say we’ve gotten some
interest from a guy. Should we immediately try to meet him?
DG: Vet him. Even if he profile
isn’t that appealing, respond to his email. Ask him some questions.
· Move from email to phone.
· If he’s not odious on the phone, only
agree to coffee
Thank you, Dating Goddess. If you want to purchase her books go to www.DatingGoddess.com.
Thank you, Dating Goddess. If you want to purchase her books go to www.DatingGoddess.com.
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