Money Matters: Money and Your Marriage

Hello Friends...
So many good tips from our upcoming money show. One blog on the subject just doesn't seem to be enough.
One of our guests Burrow Hill spoke about dealing with money issues in your marriage.  He facilitates a seminar called "The Business Side of Marriage."  Burrow suggests that couple leave the house to discuss the issue of money. He says your home is suppose to be your safe haven and there is so much to be tend to...its just not the right place to discuss finances. He suggests you take a walk, go to a hotel, use someones white board at their office...anywhere but home to talk about money.  Burrow says when you go on that walk don't say anything for a minute or two and then open the lines of communication.
A big "aha moment" during the interview was about maintaining separate bank accounts. Burrow suggests there is nothing wrong with having individual accounts and then putting monies together for household expenses. He says you will have less fights about money if you have separate accounts.
When I was married we maintained a joint account and I thought it was weird and "non-trusting" that others would have separate ones. Now that I look back on things, I didn't trust him to not "hold" back money needed for our family. He was more concerned with keeping up with the Joneses at times, instead of our financial welfare. I was just married to the wrong person, it had nothing to do with whether it was right or wrong to have separate accounts.  I now realize that everyone needs something to call their own and as long as we were putting into the joint account, there was nothing wrong with having individual ones as well. Maybe I wanted to save money for a super deluxe spa day and maybe he wanted a new set of golf clubs. No use having to defend your purchases all the time. Of course, that is not all we discussed during the show. So be sure to tune in this Wednesday at 10am Pacific.

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Eva Bowen
Executive Producer
Outreach Today